“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NASB).

“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him’” (Genesis 2:18).

As I write this I am halfway through a two-week-long self-quarantine due to having traveled back to the U.S. from Asia and because of the rapid spread of the Corona Virus or Covid-19. Though this quarantine began as a recommendation, and was limited to a two-week period, the situation has changed considerably. In my state there is not yet a legally mandated “shut-down” of travel and other activities, but that could be imposed at any time. My quarantine may be extended considerably, as will that of most in this country. Continue reading “Isolation”

Bad romance advice

The Wise Man found four things mysterious to him: the way of a snake on a rock, a ship in the seas, an eagle in the sky, and most baffling of all, “the way of a man with a maid” (Proverbs 30:19). If this relationship mystified Solomon we might be forgiven for being a little perplexed ourselves!

Because I teach at a college, I am around a lot of young people interested in some kind of romantic attachment (though some might not admit it, I know that they are). Sometimes I offer the following bad romantic advice: Continue reading “Bad romance advice”

When life takes a rough turn

So OK, you don’t need this, your romance is going along just peachy; could you keep this just in case a “friend” needs it sometime? I won’t tell!

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).

There are many ways that life could throw a “curveball,” a “spanner in the works,” but I am specifically thinking of when a Christian young person has his/her heart broken in a romance. You might react by saying, this isn’t exactly a subject dealt with in Scripture, is it? But remember that the Bible is all about the following: Continue reading “When life takes a rough turn”

Three divisive scenarios – God’s one unifying solution

Peaceful unity is beautiful, whereas evil promotes cantankerous divisiveness. We recognize this. However, are we aware just how profoundly solidarity saturates God’s will at all levels?

Paul’s writings outline God’s solutions for a fractured cosmos, a divided church and broken relationships. Should we be surprised that at its core the same solution keeps appearing? Continue reading “Three divisive scenarios – God’s one unifying solution”

Unselfish love doesn’t need Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a wonderful holiday where we focus on those we love.

It’s a romantic time that should bring joy to those who have good relationships. For those who don’t, well, it’s kinda cruel.

Of course, the holiday is economy driven and we fall in line and spend our money. Nevertheless, the day is important and we should express our fondness for that special person. Continue reading “Unselfish love doesn’t need Valentine’s Day”

Love is in the air … or maybe not?

Do you want to fight less and love more? Author and conflict resolution expert Laurie Puhn suggests the very first principle involves believing “Love Is Conditional,” even though “many of us are brought up to believe that romantic love should survive ‘no matter what.'” She explains how a belief in unconditional love is “one of the biggest saboteurs of relationship success.”

Well, she’s partly right. However, a solid scriptural viewpoint can acknowledge the value of her insight while pursuing a stronger and healthier approach to love. Continue reading “Love is in the air … or maybe not?”

Looking for peace in all the wrong places

Peace is difficult to obtain. In fact, the only lasting peace available is in the spiritual realm. However, even there it must be properly focused. Peace is a possession of God and we’ll find it only on his terms.

Humans falsely think that physical peace brings spiritual peace. But that’s backwards. All measures of peace begin spiritually and then emanate out to the other areas of our lives. Continue reading “Looking for peace in all the wrong places”

It’s complicated

One of the most used phrases on the Internet to describe a relationship is “It’s complicated.” Many people live complicated lives, made so because they have avoided God’s wisdom and sought to direct their own lives.

That’s why I like the Common English Bible rendering of Ecclesiastes 7:2, “See, this alone I found: God made human beings straightforward, but they search for many complications.”

And don’t we have a knack for getting ourselves into complicated situations?! Continue reading “It’s complicated”

Counting the Costs

Singer, songwriter Fiona Apple writes piercing words about relationships. While I do not endorse all she writes/does, her song, “Paper Bag,” carries a profound lesson.

In her song, she discusses a man who holds a powerful attraction for her. At the outset, she is exhilarated because she thinks the dove of hope is about to alight upon her. Then, she realizes it was only a paper bag and the jarring image awakens her from her stupor. Continue reading “Counting the Costs”