5 gifts parents can give their children

1. LOVE. Because of love parents have compassion for their children, Psalm 103.13. They know how to give good gifts to their children: “Is there anyone among you who, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you then, although you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matthew 7.9-11. The apostle Paul speaks of a father’s love for his children. “As you know, we treated each one of you as a father treats his own children” 1 Thessalonians 2.11. Parents must learn to die to themselves, to extinguish their own selfishness, so that they might love their children with true love. Continue reading “5 gifts parents can give their children”

The need to be good parents

When a king neared the end of his life it was customary to designate who would succeed him. David was now an old man (1 Kings 1:1). He had yet to publicly state who would succeed him as king. His surviving oldest son was Adonijah, who expected to become the next king.

“Now Adonijah, son of David and Haggith, was promoting himself, boasting, ‘I will be king!’ He managed to acquire chariots and horsemen, as well as fifty men to serve as his royal guard. (Now his father had never corrected him by saying, ‘Why do you do such things?’ He was also very handsome and had been born right after Absalom. ) He collaborated with Joab son of Zeruiah and with Abiathar the priest, and they supported him” (1 Kings 1:5-7 NET). Continue reading “The need to be good parents”

Parents, listen to testimony before judging

When a prisoner stands before the judge, he defends himself through his attorney. Even if found guilty, he knows he presented his case for innocence.

In our legal system, we’re innocent until proven guilty. We cherish this freedom and we’d do all within our power to retain that civil right. Sadly, too many children lack this privilege in their own homes. Continue reading “Parents, listen to testimony before judging”

What our children must have in the home

Social worker and author Heather Forbes said: “The most important ‘nutrients’ our children need are unconditional love, acceptance and validation.” While she’s writing from a secular standpoint, her point is spiritually astute.

Children are fragile despite their insistence that they can handle whatever comes along. The scars of abuse and rejection that children all over the world endure is staggering. Continue reading “What our children must have in the home”

Parents, heal yourself

In Luke 4:23, Jesus cited the Jewish proverb, “Physician, heal yourself,” (NKJV) which means, according to Albert Barnes, “Suppose that a man should attempt to heal another when he was himself diseased in the same manner.”

Christ wants us to be transformed by the gospel (Romans 12:1-2) so we can walk in holiness (Isaiah 35:8; 1 Peter 1:13-15). We can’t possibly hope to win the world unless we’ve adequately prepared ourselves in knowledge and righteousness (Proverbs 11:9).

As parents, we need to consider this carefully not only as Christians, but as parents in general because nothing in parenting comes naturally. We must do the hard work to become better people.  Continue reading “Parents, heal yourself”

Parents, what lies behind the behavior?

Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs a human being is asked to do and few, if any, receive any training. We must take it very seriously.

The ability to think clearly under stress is one of the greatest tools a parent can possess. We must maintain rational thought so we can make proper decisions. Otherwise, we’ll just move from crisis to crisis and miss the teaching part of parenting. Continue reading “Parents, what lies behind the behavior?”