Axioms and Proverbs

“…everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery” (Matthew 5:32, ESV).

Several days back, my adult son and I had a conversation about marriage (I’m married; he’s not). We shared a common bond, which was that I never had any interest or inclination to get married or have a family (guess who is married and has 6 children?). He was fairly certain that marriage would not be for him, and even more certain that children were not on his radar. As the conversation progressed, I said, “You never know. If the right person comes along, you’ll change your mind.” He strongly disagreed.

Was I right? I’ll give you my conclusion at the end. Continue reading “Axioms and Proverbs”

Five (unpopular) things Jesus said about divorce

“…from the beginning it was not so” (Matthew 19:8)

In 17 years of ministry (part and full-time), I have met with numerous married, and to-be-married couples. One thing I’ve found by this experience is that to-be-married couples generally understand the concept of adultery, and see it as a legitimate – if not the only – reason for divorce. Even if their Bible knowledge is somewhat limited, or they are not Christians, they will often say that this is the only legitimate grounds for a biblical divorce. I have this in writing from almost every couple I’ve married.

Yet, in nearly every troubled marriage that I’ve tried to help, one or both have a completely different, and non-biblical view of divorce and/or adultery. Continue reading “Five (unpopular) things Jesus said about divorce”

Relationship tune up

“Her children rise and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praises her. ‘Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all'”(Proverbs 31:28, ESV).

The note was on the table when Bob found it. He should have known better. He maintained his car constantly, adjusting the timing like a symphony hall conductor, changing the oil regularly, doing all the work with his own hands. His car purred more softly than their Persian cat.

But a man who understood cars so well should have understood his wife better. He was a good man, provided well for his family, and would have given his shirt off his back to a stranger. He loved Stacy, in his strong, quiet way. But he never praised her, rarely thanked her. Continue reading “Relationship tune up”

Transforming Churches

by Barry Newton From fiction to the church, history exudes examples of those who have sought to impose their own will by transforming what exists into how their own imagination thought it should be. In Mark Twain’s “The Man That Corrupted Hadleyburg,” a mysterious stranger became consumed with discovering a perfect scheme for reshaping Hadleyburg’s reputation, that it might fall into the mire of disgrace. Through guile, he infected their pillars of society with a successful cancerous plot. In a galaxy far away, Trekies will remember how Captain Kirk’s son in “The Search for Spock” had succumbed to pride and … Continue reading Transforming Churches

God versus Culture: Marital Commitment (Part One)

Christians and non-Christians have differing motivations for their actions. Fleshly men are guided by pleasure and the dictates of culture. Righteous men are led by holiness and the purity of their Christian walk. The godly man is not resistant to error; it comes far too often. Yet, they are consistently striving to walk the Christian path, staying focused on holiness.

With the nationwide escalation of divorces and cohabitating couples, marriage is at its lowest point. The ravages of doubt assail the institution leading the next generation to move further from God’s original plan. Something must be done if marriage will recover its place of respect. Continue reading “God versus Culture: Marital Commitment (Part One)”