Give her honor

History records that former President Harry Truman (1945-1953) was a dyed-in-the-wool romantic.

He pursued a lovely young lady by the name of Bess (Elizabeth Virginia Wallace) and vied for her affections back in 1910. The two dated by visiting in the sitting room, going on picnics and fishing with family and friends.

Harry and Bess were united in marriage some nine years later on June 28, 1919.

Once they were together, Harry continued to court and romance his wife throughout the entirety of their 53 year relationship.

Even though he was frequently away on governmental business and the affairs of his political office, he never failed to write Bess and tell her how much he loved her.

When Bess died of congestive heart failure in 1983, her family discovered more than 1,200 letters that Harry had written to his lifelong spouse.

Harry never stopped honoring Bess.

Remember Peter’s words? “Likewise you husbands, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered” (1 Peter 3:7,-emphasis mine, mb).

“To honor something is to ascribe value to it.  Priority is given to things but people are honored. The president of the United States is honored by the playing of ‘Hail to the Chief,’ and by hundreds of other acts of protocol, large and small.  Men, would your wives know by your actions that you honor them?  Could they tell by the things you say and do that you value them above anyone else?  Gary Smalley describes honor as ‘a reflex of the heart toward one who is deeply treasured.’  I like that definition.  Honor is the overflow of a loving heart. Ask your wife what would honor her.  You might be surprised at how simple it would be to bestow this gift of sacrificial love.  Maybe it is a phone call to say you are running late.  Or an offer to drop dry cleaning off on your way to work.  Or a warm hug at the end of a day that’s been demanding for her as it has for you.  Or even the simple words ‘I love you,’ spoken at just the right time.” /1

Husbands, do you still express honor to your wives?

  • Do you still open the car door for them?
  • When was the last time you sent them flowers (and it wasn’t their birthday)?
  • When was the last time you took them out on a date night for a movie and dinner?
  • When was the last time you sent them an email or a letter and told them why you love them?

Harry honored Bess for over half a century. Let’s emulate his example.

1/  Ed Young, “How To Have A Marriage That Sizzles,” Romancing The Home, 77