Critics

critics.jpgIT’S A FACT that “hurt people hurt people…”
They usually dislike themselves and criticize others in a misguided effort to validate themselves. If one of these injured souls lobs a criticism grenade in your direction, defuse it with understanding. Part of considering the source is seeking awareness of what that person may be going through.
One time I was praying during worship, a few moments before preaching. Eyes closed, focusing on God, I felt someone slip a note into my hand. I never saw who it was, bu tthe note was marked “Personal.” I thought to myself, “Someone probably wrote a nice note to encourage me before I preach.” A warm, loving feeling settled over me as I undfolded the paper.
A moment later, I lost that loving feeling.
Evidently, the note was from a woman who had tried to see me on Friday, my day off. She took offense at my absence and blasted me with hateful accusations. This happened literally seconds before I was to stand up to preach. In that moment, I had a choice. I could internalize the offense and become demoralized and discouraged. Or I could ask myself, I wonder what she’s experiencing that caused her to lash out?
I chose compassion over depression. My heart hurt for her. I knew that such a disproportionate reaction must indicate deep pain, so I didn’t take her note personally.
Consider the source. And consider the possibility that the jab may have come from an injured heart. Dismiss it and move on. If you don’t, you may become the very thing you despise. Craig Groeschel, Confessions of a Pastor: Adventures in Dropping the Pose and Getting Real with God, 106
KneEmail: “The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and his glory is to overlook a transgression.” Proverbs 19.11
Bible reading for 05.10.11: John 1.29-51; 2 Kings 10-12
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Choke

golf2.jpgWHEN I WAS 16, I was an accomplished junior golfer…
I had played in many tournaments throughout my home state as well as in the United States Junior Amateur. My goal in life was to play professional golf.
At one point, I participated in a state-level tournament and was favored to win. However, although I played well early on, I choked in the last round and ended up well behind the leaders. I was devasted.
I came home and broke down in from of my mother. She consoled me, which is what mothers do. I realize now that I didn’t really need a mother’s tender consolation. I needed a hard-nosed coach to yank me out of my trough of self-pity and say, “Every competitor goes through failure! Learn a lesson from it and keep going!”
Because I didin’t have that kind of coaching, I didn’t know that getting nervous and tense during a competition was a common affliction in competitive sports. I didin’t know that I could overcome it. Instead, that one failure made me see myself as a failure–someone who couldn’t handle the heat of competition.
I played in other tournaments and often jumped out to an early lead, only to tighten up and fall back in the pack as the pressure mounted. My self-esteen was based on my performance–and I was performing terribly! I went on to land a scholarship and become a club professional for three years, but I never fulfilled my potential as a golfer.
Years later, I learned to loosen up, have fun and let go of the tension–and I won a local club championship. If I had learned that lesson earlier in life, who knows how far I might have gone as a golfer.
THOUGHT: Failure hurts. Whether you fail in marriage, business or golf, failure undermines your self-esteem as few other experiences can. But failure isn’t the final word on your life. It’s just one of the raw ingredients God uses to manufacture success. Os Hillman, “Confronting the Fear of Failure,” The Upside of Adversity, 194-195
KneEmail: “Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3.13-14
Bible reading for 04.25.11: Luke 18.24-43; 2 Samuel 21, 22
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Success2

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MUHAMMAD ALI IS considered the greatest heavyweight boxer of all time…
He won 56 out of his 61 professional fights and knocked out 37 opponents. His most famous catchphrase was, “I am the greatest.!”
One day, Ali was seated in an airplane when the flight attendant came up the aisle to make sure that all the passengers had their seatbealts fastened. Reaching Ali’s seat, she asked him to buckle up.
“Hmph!” the champ sneered. “Superman don’t need no seatbelt!”
The flight attendant smiled sweetly and replied, “Superman don’t need no airplane, either.”
Ali fastened his seatbelt.
THOUGHT: The greater our success, the greater the risk of us thinking too highly of ourselves. Os Hillman, “The Success Test,” The Upside of Adversity, 109
KneEmail: “For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himselfmore highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith.” Romans 12.3
Bible reading for 04.22.11: Luke 17.1-19; 2 Samuel 14-15
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Judge

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STEPHEN COVEY TELLS of an experience he had one Sunday morning while riding a subway in New York…
People were sitting quietly–some reading their newspapers, some lost in thought, some resting with their eyes closed. It was a calm, peaceful scene. Then suddenly, a man and his children entered the subway car. Then suddenly, a man and his children entered the subway car. The children were so loud and rambunctious that instantly the whole climate changed.
The man sat down next to me and closed his eyes, apparently oblivious to the situation. The children were yelling back and forth, throwing things, even grabbing people’s papers. It was very disturbing. And yet, the man sitting next to me did NOTHING.
It was difficult not to feel irritated. I could not believe that he could be so insensitive as to let his children run wild like that and do nothing about it, taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see that everyone else on the subway felt irritated, too. So finally, with what I felt was unusual patience and restraint, I turned to him and said, “Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people. I wonder if you couldn’t control them a little more?”
The man lifted his gaze as if to come to a consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly, “Oh, you’re right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don’t know what to think, and I guess they don’t know how to handle it either.”
Suddenly, I saw things differently, and because I saw differently, I thought differently, I thought differently, I felt differently, I behaved differently. My irritation vanished. I didn’t have to worry about controlling my attitude or my behavior; my heart was filled with the man’s pain. Feelings of sympathy and compassion flowed freely… Everything changed in an instant.
THOUGHT: Has this ever happened to you? It’s easy to make a snap judgment without knowing all of the facts. You can’t always tells what’s going on inside a person or know why of what they’re doing unless you ask. Listen with your eyes as well as your ears and refrain from thinking the worst. H. Norman Wright, “Love Gives the Benefit of the Doubt,” Before You Say “I Do” Devotional, 19-20
KneEmail: “He who answers a matter before he hears it,It is folly and shame to him.” Proverbs 18.13
Bible reading for 04.12.11: Luke 11.29-54; 1 Samuel 19-21
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Through

grieving_woman2.jpgTHE KEY WORD is through…
God promises you will get through the waters of grief, the river of sorrow, the furnace of pain. Somehow you will get through. What you experience today will not last forever.
One encouragement here is God knows who you are. He is your Creator, and he calls you by name (Isaiah 43.1). You are His, and He will take care of His own. In time of sorrow you feel unimportant and unknown. God knows you, and you are important to him.
God also knows where you are. He knows when you’re fighting the current of the river of sorrow, when you’re walking through the firey furnace of suffering. Others may not know what you’re experiencing. One the outside you may have everyone believing you’re fine. But inside you’re about to drown. God knows — and He is there for you.
When Daniel’s three friends were thrown into the furance, the king watched (Daniel 3.22-26). And what he saw amazed him: the men were not harmed, and a fourth person was with them in the furnace.
God knows how you feel: alone, afraid, uncertain about the future, isolated, maybe rejected. God made you with your emotions, and he knows how they can overwhelm and control you. God will never condemn you for the way you feel. Tell him how it feels — He will listen.
God knows what you need. You need someone to share the pain, to walk through this long valley with you. He promises His presence. He also promises His love. God gave you His Son to conquer death and give hope.
Live on promises, not on explanations. Even if God explained by your loved one died, the answer wouldn’t end the heartbreak or quench the questions. Instead of explanations, God gives promises, which keep you moving ahead, giving hope and new strength.
You’ll get through your grief. It won’t end today or next month. But there is an end. Just face today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Don’t burn today’s energies on tomorrow’s problems that aren’t here yet.
You’re going to make it through. David W. Wiersbe, “Going Through,” Gone But Not Lost, 77-78
KneEmail: “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you.” Isaiah 43.2
Bible reading for 03.03.11: Mark 8.22-38; Numbers 28 – 30
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Fall

Joe Simpson.jpg IN 1985 JOE SIMPSON broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000-foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes…
Then after a second fall left him dangling in midair off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, had no choice but to cut the rope that tied them together. Failure to cut the rope meant that gravity would eventually pull them both off the steep mountain face to their deaths.
The rope snapped with the touch of Yates’ blade and Simpson dropped into a long, narrow, vertical ice tube with no way to get to the top. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two gaping vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. The he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This would be his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. He could not see the bottom of the ice tube — he could see only a cold, cruel, black hole. He had no idea if the end of the rope even touched the bottom. He purposely did not tie a knot in the end of the rope, which would have stopped his descent, preferring instead to plunge to his death rather than dangle in midair and slowly freeze to death.
To his surprise, his body eventually came to a rest on a flat surface of snow. But it turned out to be only an eggshell-thin layer of snow that was keeping gravity from sucking his body into the blackness. Then he saw a thin ray of light shining from the opposite side of the cavern. There was a 45-degree slope of ice leading up to where he could see a pinpoint of daylight. This was his way out – if only he could reach it.
He lay flat and shimmied gently across the thin layer of snow until he reached the other side of the cavern. But with a badly broken leg, the slope of ice looked impossible to climb.
He came up with a plan. He would bend over and dig a small foothold for each of his boots, which were equipped with crampons (metal claws) for climbing. Then he would pound his ice axes in the wall of ice above him and slowly lift his bad leg, then his good leg into the footholds, while pulling his body up with the ice axes. Each time he put weight on his bad leg, searing pain exploded up and down his leg. He would scream and curse out loud – his own words mocking him as they echoed through the hollow, frozen tube. Then he would repeat the process.
He made a decision to focus on the pattern rather than the pain. “The flares of pain became merged into the routine and I paid less attention to them, concentrating solely on the patterns.” He was so intent on focusing on the pattern that he refused to even look up to the object of his climb for fear that it would remind him of the little progress he had made and how far he still had to go. He knew where he was going, but it was more important to focus on the pattern. The pattern was working – one inch at a time, but it was working. After what seemed like an eternity, he popped his head up through the snow to see a ring of spectacularly beautiful mountains and blue sky. He had made it. But now he had to figure out a way to get down the rest of the mountain with a broken leg.
Simpson would be forced to repeat different patterns of behavior, standing, then falling forward, then crawling, then standing and falling forward again, for several days and nights without food or water. He would pick a spot in the distance and focus on it. Then he would give himself a deadline by which he had to get to it. When he finally got there, he would pick out another spot in the distance and repeat the pattern. Depending on the terrain, he would figure out a different pattern of movement that was most likely to push his body forward. Once he found the right pattern, he would simply focus on the pattern and repeat it over and over until he got to the next spot. It was a slow, agonizing process and his body got weaker and weaker as he went. Through the sheer force of his will and the voice inside his head that kept commanding his mangled body forward like a cruel drill sergeant, after several days, he finally got close enough to his campsite where his shouts could be heard. When his climbing partner found him, Simpson didn’t even look like himself. He face was bloody and scarred from falling repeatedly and from frostbite. His leg had swollen to almost the size of his waist. But he was alive.
What saved Joe Simpson was his decision to focus on a short, achievable goal and give himself a deadline to reach it. It was when he stopped pushing himself to get there by the deadline that he started to lose hope. He explains that his destination had become a “vague aim instead of a carefully planned objective. Without timing each stage, I had drifted aimlessly with no sense of urgency. Today it had to be different.”
What can we learn from Joe Simpson’s epic tale of survival?
1. In order to survive and prosper in times of adversity, you have to know what your final destination is and keep it always in your mind.
2. Break up the journey into small, achievable goals.
3. Experiment until you find a pattern of behavior that pulls you inch by inch closer to your goal.
4. Count on falling over and over while trying to find the right pattern. Then count on falling again even after you have found the right pattern. But make a decision to fall forward – in the direction of your goal.
5. If the goal seems impossible, focus on the pattern rather than the pain. Daniel R. Castro, “Heros Harvest Their Hidden Gifts,” Critical Choices That Change Lives, 130-133
KneEmail: 12 Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. 13 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, 14 I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:12-14
Bible reading for 11.08.10: Hebrews 5; Jeremiah 43-45
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Trust

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DANIEL WAS A man of integrity with no weak spots, no scandals, and no sins that his enemies could identify…
And when King Darius came into power during Israel’s 70-year captivity, he relied on Daniel’s wise, insightful counsel. Yet there were others who didn’t like this Hebrew prophet.
Because Daniel had a habit of praying openly every day, his enemies convinced King Darius to foolishly sign a law that would prohibit prayer to anyone except the king. The penalty for breaking this law was being thrown into a den of lions. Sure enough, Daniel prayed as he always had, and it was reported to Darius. The frustration for the king was that as powerful as he was, he couldn’t change a law that he himself had set into motion. So Daniel was sent to die in a den of lions. Yet the Bible tells us that Daniel slept while the king was up all night. I find it interesting that the child of God in the den of lions slept peacefully, while the faithless man in the palace with all its luxuries was up and worried and stressed out. As Solomon wrote, “For God gives rest to his loved ones” (Psalm 127:2).
And so it is for the person who puts his or her trust in God. When we are worrying, we are really saying that God isn’t in control, that God is not paying attention. When we worry, we are not trusting in the providence of God.
And what is the providence of God? It is the belief that God is in control of the universe. Greg Laurie
KneEmail: “Whenever I am afraid, I will trust in You.” Psalm 56:3
Bible reading for 11.04.10: Hebrews 1; Jeremiah 32, 33
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Meekness

bible-image2.jpg WHEN CHRISTIANS SWITCH from talking about football to talking about Christ, they often kick into a “religious twang” or a “stained-glass voice…”
It doesn’t help. Sometimes they flip their argument switch when the subject touches religion, as though evangelism were an intellectual wrestling match. We argue as though Jesus needed defending. We do it, I think, because our ego is at stake, and we must engage and defeat the adversary at all costs. We wind up shooting ourselves in the foot.
Generally speaking, a highly argumentative non-believer isn’t anywhere near the Cross. Entering into heated debate with him will drive him further away.
There’s a basic principle of communication interwoven in this discussion. The louder the noise, the weaker the argument. That’s why a confident, gentle spirit can be so powerful. It exasperates the opposition. Your opponent wants you to join him in the shout and shove match. Don’t! You both lose. Wives who have spiritually indifferent husbands are told they can win them without a word (1 Peter 3:1-4). The supernatural wardrobe of a “meek and quiet spirit” can do what nothing else can do. Joseph C. Aldrich, “Scouting the Other Team,” Gentle Persuasion, 76-77
KneEmail: “But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.” 1 Peter 3:15
Bible reading for 08.27.10: 1 Corinthians 9; Psalm 120-122
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