Letting her go

by Richard Mansel, managing editor

This week will be difficult because our youngest daughter, Sarah, is leaving to go away to college and we will miss her more than we can express.

While we have to let her take this important step, our hearts and minds are a cauldron of emotions. Tears of sadness and pride will intermingle as we watch her walk away. Deirdre and I will mourn as much for ourselves as we will for her.

She is a wonderful, godly young woman who has matured beyond her years. However, we will still “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17, NKJV) that she will be safe, healthy and happy in her new life.

She chose Freed-Hardeman University because she wanted a positive, godly atmosphere that she was missing in a secular school. We are proud of her decision to remain close to God while so many young Christians of her generation choose pleasure over the Lord (Ephesians 4:17).

Sarah is not perfect and she has been through hard times but we have helped her learn from each of them. We have done the best we can to prepare her to leave home and to face the spiritual battles ahead (Ephesians 6:11-12).

She and I have frequent long talks and we have worked through a host of scenarios and decisions that she may have to face. Armed with that insight and knowledge and the teaching she has received from God’s Word, we think she will be ready for her new adventure.

As Christian parents, we have a lot of responsibilities (Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4). We are commanded to do our part but our children must do theirs and that is frightening because we don’t want to let go of the reins.

All we can do is to see that they are prepared, having been taught how to resist temptations and to walk in obedience to God (James 1:12-15; John 14:15). After that, we just continue to pray, teach and lead by example.

Sarah knows that she has our unconditional love and that we are immensely proud of her. We are only an electronic moment away when she needs to talk and we will have godly friends who will look out for her. Most of all, she will be in God’s hands and there is no safer place to be (Hebrews 13:5).

One thought on “Letting her go

  1. Thanks a lot for the encouragement. Many are times when we are not able to let go our children forgetting that the same God who has provided a chance, is the same One who will take control of their lives. I have been and still in the same situation, but after reading the column together with the Bible verses, am really encouraged. May our good Lord continue manifesting Himself in us parents. Let us not cease praying for our children. Meanwhile, I wish Sarah success in all her endeavors and may she continue searching the Lord, and, definitely He will reward her. God bless you all!

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