Self-Inflicted Wounds

by Richard Mansel, managing editor

We all have a bit of the victim in us. We may wonder why the world is out to get us. For the most part, though, we stifle these urges and develop a more realistic view of life.
Sadly, these attacks from others are a regretful part of life that will always be with us. The best we can do is to eliminate the self-inflicted wounds and deal with the rest.
David is a good example of a man who created a situation and then got angry that it existed. David was a great, charismatic leader and men came to him like ships to a lighthouse. In 1 Samuel 22, David goes to Abdulllam and men come to him, looking for a leader.
“And everyone who was in distress, everyone who was in debt, and everyone who was discontented gathered to him. Therefore, he became captain over them. And there were about four hundred men with him” (1 Samuel 22:2, NKJV).
As the story progressed, David built up an army of 600 mighty men (1 Samuel 23:13). These men of valor were so committed to David, that they would do anything to protect him. They were ferocious warriors, as a result.
In 2 Samuel 23, we find an account of some of the fearless men under David’s command. We read about Josheb-Baashebeth, who killed 800 men at one time. Eleazer stood alongside David and fought off the Philistine army. Likewise, Shammah stood in a field and held off enemy forces.
These mighty men went beyond their fear to maintain their commitment to David. Nothing could dissuade them from their responsibilities as men of war.
This came into play when David commited adultery with Bathsheba and she became pregnant. He tried to cover up his sin by calling her husband in from the battlefield, so he would sleep with her. However, Uriah the Hittite refused to comply and David became frustrated as he tried to have Uriah killed. Eventually, he succeeded (2 Samuel 11:14-17).
Curiously, David’s frustration was of his own hand. Uriah the Hittite was one of David’s mighty men of valor (1 Chronicles 1:10,26,41). The reason David could not get Uriah to betray his commitment to the mission was because David trained him that way.
David was a great man of God, imbued with strength and weaknesses. Both took the stage at various times through his life. Uriah was there for both of them. David’s self-inflicted wound brought trouble on his life and house for years to come (2 Samuel 12).
Sadly, these things usually happen that way in our lives. We need to eliminate as many of these self-inflicted wounds as we can for our own and our family’s good. Or, generations may suffer from our selfish deeds.

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