Can A Friend Remain Silent?

by Tim Hall
Many Christians don’t speak of Christ to their friends for fear of hurting their feelings.
group_of_friends.jpg“Now Saul spoke to Jonathan his son and to all his servants, that they should kill David; but Jonathan, Saul’s son, delighted greatly in David. So Jonathan told David, saying, ‘My father Saul seeks to kill you. Therefore please be on your guard until morning, and stay in a secret place and hide'” (1 Samuel 19:1,2, NKJV).
The relationship between David and Jonathan was close. The passage above tells us that Jonathan “delighted greatly in David.”.Another passage says that their souls were “knit” together (1 Samuel 18:1).
Therefore, it’s not hard to understand why Jonathan put himself at risk in order to warn David of impending danger. How could he not warn David, if they were such good friends?
Proverbs 27:6 states the principle from another perspective: “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.”
The point is clear: If you love someone, you should want the best for them. And sometimes getting them to see what is best may require wounding them.
Every member of the Lord’s church has a circle of friends and family. Some within that circle are not Christians. Others may consider themselves to be Christians, but are involved with groups that teach and practice things not in harmony with God’s revealed will.
How do we act toward these friends and family members? Do we remain silent, preferring not to hurt their feelings? Would we never inflict a wound even if doing so delivers them from danger?
People involved in car crashes sometimes receive further injuries while being rescued. Should rescue workers cease their efforts because there is a chance they might hurt the victim further?
Certainly, reasonable means must be used, but the bottom line is rescue. Break my arm if you must, but get me out of the car before it explodes! I will thank you later for what you did.
The challenge is alarmingly simple: Can a friend remain silent when the stakes are so high?

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