Let us set the stage for Song of Solomon 4:6. In Song of Solomon 2:17 the Shulamite told Solomon, “Until the day breaks and the shadows flee away,” that he should turn and “be like a gazelle…upon the mountains of Bether.”
Later he arrived in a palanquin perfumed with myrrh and frankincense (Song 3:6-11). Then he saw her and painted a beautiful picture of her (Song 4:1-5). Then, he said,
Until the day breaks
And the shadows flee away,
I will go my way to the mountain of myrrh
And to the hill of frankincense.
(Song 4:6)
So, he answered her request of 2:17 and he would enjoy his time with her.
Time with one’s spouse should be like going to a place where myrrh and frankincense grow, a time of pleasure. Therefore, we have to think how we can be that way for our spouse rather than demanding how the other can be what we want.