One of the most often discussed subjects in Scripture is sex and yet it is one of the least mentioned in Churches. To ignore something everyone else is discussing, and Scripture is so open about, is ridiculous.
God created sex for men and women for specific contexts. It is a beautiful, powerful experience bringing couples closer together (Proverbs 5:15-20). However, God has very strict parameters for sexual activity that are nonnegotiable.
“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).
God reserves sex for the bonds of marriage. All sexual activity outside of marriage is sin (Matthew 19:9). It is for intimacy (Song of Solomon 1) and procreation (Genesis 4:1).
God’s plan is for a boy who is a virgin to marry a girl who is a virgin, after growing up in homes where modesty and purity were the rule. They marry and never have sexual relations outside of their marriage.
Society ridicules this goal as old fashioned and unrealistic. Nevertheless, God stands by his demands. They are immune to culture or the fickle demands of man (Psalm 119:89). We will be judged on the last day by God’s standards, not men’s (John 12:48).
If everyone lived by God’s plan for sex, sexual diseases would ostensibly cease to exist. However, man prefers to be irresponsible and hope science bails him out. This has not happened yet.
The Center for Disease Prevention reported that 26% of teenage girls in America have a sexually transmitted disease.
Sexual perversity is a stain permeating almost every aspect of the entertainment, advertising, and clothing industries. If we open our eyes in public, immodesty assaults our senses at every turn.
Even in worship, immodesty exists. Some Christian men avoid serving the Lord’s Supper because of the proliferation of cleavage and legs on display before them. Likewise, those in pulpits see far too much when they look out at their audience.
In public, men display their underwear or their naked chests while women display almost everything allowed by law. Christian men and women have no right to dress like the world (Ephesians 4:1; 1 Timothy 2:9).
Sanctification, not sexiness nor comfort, is the goal of God’s people before a lost and dying world (Matthew 5:14-16).
Sexual sin does occur, despite the teachings of Scripture, even in the Lord’s body. What must we do to help them deal with these challenges?
First, we must never try to compromise nor dilute sin. God’s will was established before time began and no one has the right to alter his truths (Psalm 119:89; John 12:48).
Second, we must stay aware of what is happening in our culture./3 Young people are growing up in a vastly different world than many of us grew up in.
A Christian young man once lamented that about the only virtuous girl he knew in his high school was his sister. He said that girls were constantly throwing themselves at boys. He said that as a Christian who is trying to remain pure, they scared him.
Failing to realize the unique challenges young people face today will likely ensure that we will not be heard as we seek to reach them with God’s truths.
Third, we must teach and practice forgiveness when sexual sins are committed. Sexual sin can be forgiven, if we will repent. We need grace, mercy, and the warmth of our Christian family, not slings and arrows. However, we cannot compromise Scripture to attain this noble goal.
Fourth, we must be compassionate and loving.
God reserves the pleasure of sexual activity for the confines of marriage. Practiced outside of his plan, sex may bring pleasure, but the penalty overshadows the benefits (Revelation 20:11-15).