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Sexual Sin

One of the most often discussed subjects in Scripture is sex and yet it is one of the least mentioned in Churches. To ignore something everyone else is discussing, and Scripture is so open about, is ridiculous.

God created sex for men and women for specific contexts. It is a beautiful, powerful experience bringing couples closer together (Proverbs 5:15-20). However, God has very strict parameters for sexual activity that are nonnegotiable.

“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).

God reserves sex for the bonds of marriage. All sexual activity outside of marriage is sin (Matthew 19:9). It is for intimacy (Song of Solomon 1) and procreation (Genesis 4:1).

God’s plan is for a boy who is a virgin to marry a girl who is a virgin, after growing up in homes where modesty and purity were the rule. They marry and never have sexual relations outside of their marriage.

Society ridicules this goal as old fashioned and unrealistic. Nevertheless, God stands by his demands. They are immune to culture or the fickle demands of man (Psalm 119:89). We will be judged on the last day by God’s standards, not men’s (John 12:48).

If everyone lived by God’s plan for sex, sexual diseases would ostensibly cease to exist. However, man prefers to be irresponsible and hope science bails him out. This has not happened yet.

The Center for Disease Prevention reported that 26% of teenage girls in America have a sexually transmitted disease.

Sexual perversity is a stain permeating almost every aspect of the entertainment, advertising, and clothing industries. If we open our eyes in public, immodesty assaults our senses at every turn.

Even in worship, immodesty exists. Some Christian men avoid serving the Lord’s Supper because of the proliferation of cleavage and legs on display before them. Likewise, those in pulpits see far too much when they look out at their audience.

In public, men display their underwear or their naked chests while women display almost everything allowed by law. Christian men and women have no right to dress like the world (Ephesians 4:1; 1 Timothy 2:9).

Sanctification, not sexiness nor comfort, is the goal of God’s people before a lost and dying world (Matthew 5:14-16).

Sexual sin does occur, despite the teachings of Scripture, even in the Lord’s body. What must we do to help them deal with these challenges?

First, we must never try to compromise nor dilute sin. God’s will was established before time began and no one has the right to alter his truths (Psalm 119:89; John 12:48).

Second, we must stay aware of what is happening in our culture./3 Young people are growing up in a vastly different world than many of us grew up in.

A Christian young man once lamented that about the only virtuous girl he knew in his high school was his sister. He said that girls were constantly throwing themselves at boys. He said that as a Christian who is trying to remain pure, they scared him.

Failing to realize the unique challenges young people face today will likely ensure that we will not be heard as we seek to reach them with God’s truths.

Third, we must teach and practice forgiveness when sexual sins are committed. Sexual sin can be forgiven, if we will repent. We need grace, mercy, and the warmth of our Christian family, not slings and arrows. However, we cannot compromise Scripture to attain this noble goal.

Fourth, we must be compassionate and loving.

God reserves the pleasure of sexual activity for the confines of marriage. Practiced outside of his plan, sex may bring pleasure, but the penalty overshadows the benefits (Revelation 20:11-15).

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Richard lives in Florence, Alabama and is married to Deirdre. They have three daughters. He is an avid reader, devoted writer and lover of history and research. He is the author of "The Most Important Question" and is working on more books.

7 thoughts on “Sexual Sin

  1. Give it up.. seriously. God’s the one who made us with the urges that we have. He is the one (assuming for the sake of argument that he even exists) that gave us bodies that naturally crave sexual relations. What kind of God would bless us with the ability to have an orgasm, and the urge to seek sexual relations.. but then give us a non-negotiable law saying that we are not allowed to satisfy these cravings until we’re married. What if I don’t want to get married? Maybe I have far more important things planned for my life than getting married and raising a family like my church growing up always taught me was the proper goal for my life? I want a career. Marriage is simply not in that plan. But there is no way I am going to deny my body what it craves for the rest of my life simply because I made a less traditional choice of how to live out my life. No one has any right to expect that of me.. least of all an almightly lord who apparently gave me those cravings in the first place!!

  2. Sara,
    Of course, God made us with sexual urges. Naturally, God’s law on sexuality will always be unpopular. Hedonism always draws a larger crowd because anything goes including sexual diseases and death.
    But, He is God and we are not. He did not ask us what we wanted. Instead, he did what was best for us.
    You can choose not to marry but you cannot have sexual relations outside of marriage and be pleasing to God.
    Salvation matters more than physical pleasure.
    Your same argument would allow drug abuse, alcoholism, pedophilia and a thousand other sins. When our bodies become the boss, we will die spiritually.
    Thanks for reading Forthright.

  3. Thank you brother Mansel.
    I just wish more preachers had the guts to tell folks that dress immodestly and claim to be obedient Christians that they are causing others to stumble. Too many ministers are afraid to offend or seem judgmental these days. But, someone has to remind people of the boundaries that God has set.
    Sara’s comments are so typical of people who want things their way and have inclination to consider what God wants, or consider what their own wisdom may cost them in the long run. I feel very sorry for the young folks growing up in this overly permissible world. One would hope that the other young people they meet at church would be a lot different than those they attend school and work with. Another reason we need to hold to standards in our churches.

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