We Do Not Change Others By Force

Read the Bible in a year by reading Proverbs 25-27 today.
Someone needs to change and we try to pressure him into changing against his will. That makes us believe that we are doing the right thing, but the one we are trying to change does not believe he is doing the right thing. If he changes, he is only doing it to pacify us. Solomon revealed the way to change people, saying, “By long forbearance a ruler is persuaded, and a gentle tongue breaks a bone” (Proverbs 25:15). Rulers are slow to change. They have to be that way. However, when it is necessary to change one, Solomon, who was a king, knew that persuading a king comes by long forbearance. Work with the person you are trying to change. Be patient. Be slow. He also added that gentleness is so powerful that it can break bones! You want proof? Watch how people treat you, whether they use aggressive and belligerent pressure or gentleness and see which one has the greater effect on you.

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